Who is Lindsey?

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About Me

My name is Lindsey.  I’m 34 years old and a full time mommy and an aspiring blogger/speaker (in my rare free time).  I live in my favorite part of the world — San Diego, California — with my amazing husband, Trevor, and our beautiful daughter.

I was born and raised in the suburbs of Chicago, Illinois, in a wonderful little community called Bolingbrook.  My dad has been the mayor there since I was only four years old, so growing up, everyone knew who I was.  There were some definite perks to being in the spotlight — luxury tickets to ballgames and VIP meetings with Presidents, for example — but it’s challenging to always have eyes on you.  It can be hard to discern who genuinely cares and who just wants to get close for favors, and everyone thinks they know you well enough to judge you, often harshly.

In 2009, I moved to San Diego to pursue my master’s degree and get a break from the “fish bowl.”  In the process, I met Trevor.  He stole my heart on our first date and ruined my plans of returning to Illinois after graduation.  Sorry, Mom and Dad!

We got married in a magical ceremony at sunset on 11/11/11, in a house we rented on the beach.  It was perfect.

After about a year, we tried to start a family, but that proved to be a challenge.  We endured three miscarriages and countless tears, and I really wrestled with my faith.  After total surrender, God finally blessed us with our daughter in October 2014.  She is energetic, full of joy, and very opinionated.  She definitely keeps me busy!

In 2016, I was diagnosed with ADHD, which explains a lot about my life and struggles I have faced the past three decades.  Medication helps a lot, but it does have side effects, so I don’t take it every day.  I’ll probably write about ADHD now and then because it’s a major part of my life.

When I’m not blogging or speaking (see my other site), I enjoy reading, running, exploring the great outdoors, traveling to new places, talking to strangers, and laughing until my stomach hurts.  If I were stranded on a deserted island, I could survive with my Bible, sunshine, and a lifetime supply of cold pizza.

Why I Write

I started this blog because I’m passionate about authentic connection.  I like being real, and I like creating safe spaces for other people to be real.  I wanted to develop a venue for honest conversation about hard topics, where I could hopefully use my experiences and education to encourage and support others.

I also sometimes have information I really want to share with the world, like a cool product or place I’ve stumbled upon, and I wanted a forum in which to do that.

The problem is, putting myself out there equals opening myself (and my family) up to criticism.  We all know how nasty the world wide web can be.  Unfortunately anonymity can cause us to forget that real people are reading our words and turn the best of us into unintentional cyber bullies.  Having left a highly scrutinized existence eight years ago, I really struggled with whether or not I wanted to reenter it.

For a long time, I’ve been paralyzed by fear of being judged or just making a fool of myself, and that kept me from writing.  But I don’t want to sit here any longer waiting for the perfect time and the perfect words to launch my little corner of the internet.  I can’t let fear or the opinions of a few strangers keep me from potentially helping others, so here I am.

This blog might be awkward, silly, and/or scattered at times.  But so am I!  Hopefully it will also be fun and full of love.  Regardless, here’s to breaking free from the fear of failure.  Lindsey is on the loose!  😉

 

doing my best to love God, others, and myself with all of my heart, soul, and ADHD mind